Most of us have grown up trying to
please people so they won't reject us. We all have an inbred need to be loved.
And it's unfortunate but people do usually love us based on our
performance. If we do what they want us to do, they accept us. But if we
don't, they reject us. Aaarrgghhh!!! Thus the mode of human love. However,
by human standards you may be flawed, or imperfect, or not wanted, or not
lovable---BUT THAT IS BY HUMAN STANDARDS. But, in reality, you are
passionately loved. In the eyes of the One who really counts, God. He knows
you are special. To other people you might be just one of thousands, but
not to God who made you in His image. You mean so much to Him that what God
wants with you is like a perfect harmonious unity in which you can enjoy
each other forever. He loves you not based on your performance, but for being
who you are--YOU! He accepts you because He decided to, not because of what
you do or do not do.
Women especially may take rejection more to
heart than men. That's because women tend to take on the entire responsibility
for the relationships all by themselves. If the relationship fails, they
feel their efforts were rejected. Their performance has failed. Hence, they
feel THEY are rejected.
How many men or women in your life have you
rejected? Can you remember a time when a particular person wanted to date
you and you turned them down? Not because there was something wrong with
them, but just because you felt they were not right for YOU. In fact, they
probably were very good people, with very desirable assets and qualities.
But just not for you. Call it chemistry, call it soul-connecting,
call it whatever you'd like, but they just weren't the right person for you.
Do you know how much that person felt rejected? Do you know how much you
hurt them? Of course not, because you didn't consciously REJECT them. You
just declined them as being suitable for YOU. However, even though there
might have been nothing wrong with them at all--they STILL FELT REJECTED.
And you may feel rejected now, too, but yet that doesn't mean there is something
wrong with YOU either. You are no more rejected than those people you turned
away, who, incidentally, probably moved on and found mates that they were
far more suitable to. And you will too...trust me.
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